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I love your support. So many of you have encouraged me to keep writing all these years. I took a few years off because I wasn't feeling very confident about my skill and self-conscience about my subject matter. I really appreciate your gentle (sometimes haunting) push to get back on the proverbial horse. My favorite thing in the world is making someone laugh, typically at my own expense. It warms my heart to hear that my silly stories have helped you smile or laugh out loud when you felt like that's the last thing you could do.


I also really appreciate the support of many boyfriends who read through my entire collection of crazy and still chose to continue dating. I'm not sure if you felt bad for me or found me charming. Regardless, thanks for the encouragement.


I'm going to change things up a little bit. As you may have guessed, from some of my posts, I have aspirations of writing a book. (Or two, three, or four… We'll see.) Anyway, all of my stories, up to 3/6/17, are true and happened to me. I'm thinking about adding some characters to my stories and playing around with fiction writing. You'll be able to tell the real stories from fiction. I think. ;-)


I'm not sure what my books are going to be like, yet. I've always enjoyed reading fiction but, maybe non-fiction is the right path for me. I'm pretty confident with the voice I've developed in telling my silly stories and would like to continue to write in that tone. I know I'm going to start off slow because, as you know, self-discipline has never been one of my stronger qualities. I may try to play around with other subjects, too. Stay tuned.


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Thursday, February 19, 2009


Can I just tell you? I have been cranky for two months. It was brought to my attention shortly after Thanksgiving that I may be a touch self-centered. Now, I’ve had my eye on a couple of different “prizes” for many, many years. Some realistic, others, maybe not so much… For example, I believe wholeheartedly that I am meant for stardom… Am I self-centered? Narcissistic? Or just plain, unrealistic? Maybe a little bit of all three.

I try to offset that with trying to be as kind as I can to my fellow man. Typically, that involves having a little too much compassion and empathy for a meat-head guy, sometimes referred to as a “meatball.”  I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve thought to myself, “If my friend was telling me the things this guy is telling or showing me, about someone she were dating, what would be my advice?” The honest answer is usually, “Run!”

This brings me to another “prize,” a partner. I’ve mentioned I am the first born of an immigrant mother and I’m the only one of her brood that is perpetually unattached. Am I self-centered? Maybe a little but, so what? Who isn’t?! Is that the reason I’m single? I don’t think so.

I was invited to Hawaii for a romantic 2-week vacation with a guy I had been dating for approximately one month.  Now, I know that any level headed woman would think twice and weigh options. “Do I trust this man? Is this man someone I can “live” with for 2 weeks? Is there real potential in this relationship?” When all the answers to those questions start with “N” then it’s probably a good idea to decline. Of course, I said, “sure!”

Why? Many reasons. The two obvious: adventure and free trip. The not so obvious reason: the relief that maybe “this one” could work out. Maybe all those red flags were just part of a deep fear of picking the wrong partner… Or, could it have been because it’s possible that I might really be a little too picky. (That’s something that has been pointed out more than a couple of times in the past.)

I saw the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” with a couple of perpetual singletons the other night and followed it up with the comedian that wrote it; then watched a piece on the Discovery Channel called “The Science of Sex Appeal” which I recorded to refer back as necessary. Apparently, our mothers were right about not chasing a guy. According to the insightful movie and comedian, we should listen to our gut and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don’t focus on the idiot who doesn’t do it for you in the first couple of dates just because you don’t want to be single anymore. (That leads to crankiness.)

Also, the “Science of Sex Appeal” teaches us that if you go out with minimal clothes while you’re ovulating you won’t be single for long. I would imagine this poses a problem for conservative and slightly modest women, like me.

So, there it is, I am not self-centered, I just don’t show enough skin. I’ll let you know if it works when it warms up a bit.

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